When I bought that sexy yet adorable dress, I could tell how perfect it will look on her, and trust me, I wasn’t wrong. I had many pictures of her play in my head as I waited patiently by my car, after delivering the dress. As she took her gorgeous, calculated steps towards me that cozy night, in that dress, all I could hear in my head was Ed-Sheeran’s Perfect. And the dinner? Believe me when I say it had the aura she always dreamed of; from the lights coming up interchangeably, to the soft sound of Ed-Sheeran’s Thinking Out Loud playing in the ground. You wonder why Ed-Sheeran has to be in my every thought. Well, it’s because his lyrics melts her heart and I know how best to use these songs to shoot my shots whenever I hurt her or I am about to. Regardless, I showed her undiluted love and everyone but her could see and feel it.
That’s all that played in my head as I knelt in front of her with the most expensive ring I could find and heard her say No to my marriage proposal. Everyone there including me was confused because, as many lamented as they sadly went back to their houses, “What more would she ask for in a man”
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Thinking about it years later, as I watch her cute little body lay by my side, I could figure out where I got it wrong. You wanna know? Let’s get on this ride together.
Every woman wants ATTENTION. Your money, gifts, late night dinners and surprise cakes won’t achieve that. Your woman needs you at her craziest moments and she wants you to be the only man she can talk to in her worst days. She wants to call you just to give you a gist or tell you how much she misses you. She wants to mentally have it at the back of her mind that she has you any time any day; and you can’t make her believe you are all of these by just saying it. She wants to feel it instead. The mistake many men make today is that they believe money can solve any and everything out there but guess what, if she gets married to you because of the money, she will fuck another. I know many girls out there make it seem like the money is all they care about but let me burst your bubbles, these ladies out there have men who give them the attention they crave and that’s the man who has their heart. Don’t ever give room for another man to crawl into the heart of your woman due to your negligence, because that is the first step to losing that woman you truly love. That money will not save you at the end of the day; it will only lead you on in pretense. Don’t get it wrong, it’s okay to be busy, money oriented and focused, but, don’t get too overwhelmed that you lose her in the process.
A woman needs PATIENCE. The truth is, every woman has the tendency to be a drama queen, but you know what, that’s what makes them cute. You just have to thread patiently with them. You don’t have to snap at them at the slightest things, else you begin to create fear in your relationship and once that sets in, there is trouble lurking. Be a shoulder she can cry on anytime and endeavor to be calm with her. You can only get the best from your woman when she is comfortable around you, and you won’t achieve that by being a beast around her. Treat your woman as an egg, with the understanding that the slightest carelessness can break her.
Try to be UNDERSTANDING. You should understand how the psyche of your woman works and that which makes her spark and that which doesn’t. Understand when she needs a firm hand and when she needs to be corrected in love. Always keep at the back of your mind that any other woman can be complicated, but yours should be comprehended.
Women are not so hard a nut to crack, you just need to find a way into their heart and it is only when you can achieve this that your money, gifts etc will make sense to her, else, she will use you as a bait. With all of these however, only a woman who is true and is meant to be yours will stay. It doesn’t mean everyone out there is a crap of shit; that woman probably isn’t yours. If she is, she is definitely coming back.
Also importantly, the same tips that applies in keeping a man, applies in keeping a woman too and vice versa .
Regardless of all these, make sure you own a space in her heart that money cannot buy.