That morning was different. The sun seemed to shine brighter, the wind seemed to blow harder and life just seemed sweeter. I got into the drop my friend had ordered for me (as I could not afford one) and I kept smiling to myself. “I am going to start the trip” the driver said, and I replied in the most exciting way ever. “LOL” I’m sure that driver wondered for a long time what could have kept me excited. Oh well, as the car zoomed, the reality of the day dawned on me, and that excitement vanished in split seconds, sending tons of worries to my head and I had to agree with my mind at that point, that a part of me was anxious of the interview I had that morning. I took a deep breath, said a word of prayer and concentrated on appreciating the beauty of nature.
That day, I got a job after eight years of failed attempts and roaming the streets.
As I sipped my wine, with a smile plastered on my face, I was set to give my daughter the answer to the same question I asked my mum back then “What was different that day that got me the job”. The shock on her face was priceless when I told her that it was the day I changed my perspective to life that my life had a positive turn around and it was that day that I learnt that, you are a product of your mindset.
Have we ever taken time to ask ourselves why things are not happening the way we want them to? Have we realized over time that many of us deny ourselves of the good things that should be because we have clouded our minds with things that shouldn’t be? Many of us deny ourselves of the beautiful things out there because we have clothed ourselves in the ugly ones. Many of us die in our existence because we have refused to live for our existence.
It is funny how people see it as normal when the bad things happen and count themselves lucky when the good things come. Listen, the good things should be the normal things to you because you are not expected to accommodate the bad ones. Do not let negativity be a norm for you because no situation has the power to define who you are. Oh okay, don’t beat yourself up over this, just take note of these 3Ms
Master your feelings. You need to be conscious of your mood per time and stop getting lost in a bad mood, hiding under the shadow of “mood swing”. I always laugh when people say that, because as humans, you are designed to be masters of our emotions. You are supposed to single handedly determine your reactions to situations and not the other way round. Importantly, you should not live your life as a reaction to people but as an action purposely taken.
Make a conscious decision to be happy. Happiness is Intentional, sadness is optional. You should choose to be happy, you should choose to smile always, you should choose to overlook things and you should choose to be an inspiration to others. You are too strong to allow your situations dictate your mood.
Mind your association. You are a product of your immediate environment and you cannot do any of the earlier points stated if and when you are with the wrong people. Emotions are contagious, so you have to position yourself in an environment and around people whose goals align with yours. If you choose to be happy, stay around happy people. It might be a hard decision to make, but if you are going to live a life filled with joy, you have to learn to shield yourself from toxic people.
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In all, be a reason someone is smiling today, but then do not forget that you cannot give what you don’t have. So, if you are going to be a light unto others, you have to get your own light lit first.
Always remember that PRODUCTIVITY is enhanced by POSITIVITY