The smell of his perfume was the first to get my attention. I turned from the guy I was talking to, just to see who bore that nice smell.
And when I saw him, I knew if I looked much longer, I would pass out in admiration. I have indeed never seen a man so physically complete. He was a beauty to behold.
I couldn’t get my eyes off him all through the party and when I saw him pull out a chair for a lady to sit, I knew I had to meet this man. A complete gentleman I must say.
Somehow in the middle of the party, I walked up to him and it was until then I noticed he had a stud sitting pretty on his ear. I needed no other conviction to the fact that he was a bad boy.
Yet, he was the kind of bad boy that I’d rather have. So, I said “Hello”.
When I took him to meet my parents, the first question they asked is “Why him?” A
a very conservative and morally conscious girl, they would have expected something different from me. I had my reasons and I’d share them with you.
The first mistake many of us make, is to judge good or bad by appearance. Come to think of it, armed robbers these days wear suit and tie; so the mindset that any man who looks good and flashy is a “bad” boy is very myopic.
That being said, let’s talk about the “bad” boys and why the girls would rather have them. You see those boys who come out as bad, have the perfect key to every woman’s heart and that’s why they are easily tagged heart breakers.
They have the right words to say at the right time. They are the kind of guys you would want to be called their babes. They have the kind of charisma that makes you never stop tripping and they do the most romantic things.
Many believe they can easily do these things because they have been with many ladies, or because they don’t have serious work to do, but guess what? These are the little things that gets a woman thrilled.
Women want to wake up to sweet texts. They want you to tell them how beautiful they are. They want to hear how you feel about them. They want breakfast in bed.
They want you to look into their eyes and get lost in your gaze of them.
You see these things? Money won’t buy them.
Painfully, because most guys already know these are what women want, some of them use it to deceive the woman and leave them broken after. They have sweet words but bitter souls, which is why women on the other hand must learn to see beyond the sweet words and the romantic gestures.
Being a good guy is not an excuse to be boring. Being a career guy is not an excuse to be rigid. You are not less of a good guy if you dress well and act romantic. Take her out on dates, surprise her once in a while and say nice things to her amongst many others. Some guys don’t even know how to engage in romantic conversations and activities and when the women try to pick that up, they give cold shoulders.
Of a truth, they are some guys who take out time to do all of these things despite their busy schedule and their “good” boy lifestyle. Trust me, if there are more men like that, the “bad” boys would only have the “bad” girls to themselves.
To the ladies
Every reasonable man, good or bad, loves a woman who looks good, who is respectful and who complements them. Romantic gestures aren’t for the men alone. If you treat your man like crap, another woman would treat him like a KING that he is.
Before you complain about the things he is not doing for you and to you, be sure you are being your best to him and for him.
Relationship is not a one man game. It takes two to tangle.
Men! Step up your games
Women! Bring out your best.
One more thing– good girls don’t like bad boys; they only crave the loving gestures and attributes that the “bad” boys possess.