DON’T DOS IN A RELATIONSHIP

The moment he walked out of the door, I knew forever had come to an end!

Just like mine crashed, I have seen relationships go down the drain because of mistakes that could have been avoided. For the first time, I must admit that I messed up and it is my fault that this good man slipped off my fingers. I don’t want you to make the same mistakes.

No doubt, everybody has their personal likes and dislikes in their relationships that they expressly state to their partners in order to grow a cordial relationship between them. However, regardless of the personal dos and don’ts in a relationship, there are some things that should NEVER suffice in any relationship. These things are what I tag the UNFORGIVABLE OFFENCES. Don’t get me wrong, people forgive and move past these things, but most times, they put the affected relationships on an unstable state, which might end up leading to a break up or a managed relationship. Mine led to a break up, yours shouldn’t and that is why you shouldn’t do any of these things:

SECRETS: To start with, what is a relationship filled with secrets and hide out? Your partner is meant to be your best friend and lover, someone you share your best and worst moments with. Let’s not even go too far, how do people get into relationships without talking about everything in their past and present lives? How? Okay guy, I am calm. But to be honest, a relationship is a mirage when it is full of secrets. You know what would happen? The moment your partner finds out that secret, he/she naturally believes there are worst secrets you are hiding. Many people claim they have secrets for the fear of losing their partners. Hey, whoever and whatever is meant for you would stay. If you didn’t want to hurt them, you wouldn’t do it to start with. If you had to do it either before or during your relationship, he/she deserves to know. It’s not too late. Let it all out, today and now!

 LIES: No one survives under the atmosphere of lie. Not even you would, so why do it? I hear a lot of, it is better to tell a lie if it would save a relationship. Permit me, but it is bullshit. There is nothing as honorary as being honest. It makes everyone, I mean everyone respect you. If you have an integrity in its tiniest form, you would know that you would rather avoid some things than lie about them. Again, why would anyone even lie to his/her partner? Love is honest and love if forgiving, so for real, if you cannot be completely honest with your partner you need to reevaluate that relationship. Maybe you are not with the right person after all. You might have in the past, but make this day a new beginning for you and your partner. The beginning of NO LIES.

UNFAITHFULNESS: It is sad that we live in a society where cheating is seen as a norm especially for the men. Let me scream this, CHEATING IS DISRESPECTFUL. If there is something that attracts you in another person that your partner doesn’t have, try to imbibe it into your partner. Why would anyone say he/she loves the partner and still go ahead to cheat on them? What usually happens is that, when one partner finds out the other is cheating, the relationship becomes void of trust. And then, what is a relationship without trust? Sometimes, the hurt partner forgives and moves on, but many times, that partner finds it hard or almost impossible to trust the other partner again. My question to you would be, why would you lose something beautiful for some girl or boy that you do not want to be with? If you are tired of the relationship, you can walk way instead of cheating.

DISRESPECT: Mutual respect is one vital thing in a relationship and many people miss this point all the time. People out there would carry your partner the way you carry them, so if you don’t want anyone to disregard your partner, you have to be the first to respect them. When it comes to men, they find pride in their women treating them like a KING, especially when they are in public. It makes a man hang on to his woman more because he feels like he owns her. The women on the other end too tend to respect a man who values them more. A man who would show to the world that he doesn’t joke or disrespect his woman. In all, respecting your partner builds their confidence. Try it

FAKE ORGASM: This particular thing can ruin a person’s ego. It is a beautiful feeling to make love to your partner and know they are feeling you right in their system. If for any reason one person finds out the other hasn’t been feeling it and has only been lying, it can make that partner very withdrawn and this can lead to the end of them. Many people are of the opinion that they do this not to allow the other person feel bad, but it gets even worse when they find out. If there’s something you want your partner to do to spice up your sex life or make you have that orgasm, please be open about it. It makes you both bond more. Give that a show and say thank you after.

Beyond these, find out the dos and don’ts of your partner and make sure you both compromise accordingly.

Relationship is sweet when the right ingredients are added.